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This cartoon brings up a very important and somewhat divisive issue among many folks - married and unmarried alike. Every married woman (and some forward thinking men) at some point has had to decide which team she will play for.  Many were surprised that after our wedding, I did drop my maiden name and take my husband’s surname.  All I’ll say for the purpose of this post is, never say never. *shrug*  I’m in the ‘all or nothing’ camp on this issue.  Hyphenating just wasn’t for me.  Together my husband’s surname and my maiden name do not merge well; they do not seamlessly or melodically roll off one’s tongue.  Our names together make one pause and giggle.   In my case, I preferred to avoid ridicule, but I felt like it would be less confusing for others I come in contact with as well.   Not that anyone’s decision should be based on what is easiest for others, but when I hear of people who have to constantly correct people, I’m glad it’s not me. I imagine it must be annoying. One friend always has her two last names reversed (no idea why); thus, her husband has been called Mr. [her maiden name] more times than he’d like.  The teachers and administrators at another friend’s kid’s school insist on not referring to her as her hyphenated name, but only her husband’s last name no matter how many times she’s corrected them.  A relative of mine was told by her job that she’d have to pick one name only for her email address and business cards…say whaaaat???   Personally, I have lived 30+ years having people call me everything besides my correct first name, therefore, I have too short a fuse to endure such complications with my last name too.  I say do whatever makes you happy though.  
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This cartoon brings up a very important and somewhat divisive issue among many folks - married and unmarried alike. Every married woman (and some forward thinking men) at some point has had to decide which team she will play for. 

Many were surprised that after our wedding, I did drop my maiden name and take my husband’s surname.  All I’ll say for the purpose of this post is, never say never. *shrug* 

I’m in the ‘all or nothing’ camp on this issue.  Hyphenating just wasn’t for me.  Together my husband’s surname and my maiden name do not merge well; they do not seamlessly or melodically roll off one’s tongue.  Our names together make one pause and giggle.   In my case, I preferred to avoid ridicule, but I felt like it would be less confusing for others I come in contact with as well.  

Not that anyone’s decision should be based on what is easiest for others, but when I hear of people who have to constantly correct people, I’m glad it’s not me. I imagine it must be annoying. One friend always has her two last names reversed (no idea why); thus, her husband has been called Mr. [her maiden name] more times than he’d like.  The teachers and administrators at another friend’s kid’s school insist on not referring to her as her hyphenated name, but only her husband’s last name no matter how many times she’s corrected them.  A relative of mine was told by her job that she’d have to pick one name only for her email address and business cards…say whaaaat???  

Personally, I have lived 30+ years having people call me everything besides my correct first name, therefore, I have too short a fuse to endure such complications with my last name too.  I say do whatever makes you happy though.  

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